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To everyone that discounts a message based on how the messenger looks.
Posted this graphic on another blog about a year ago-people still don’t know about this, so I’m reposting again here. Whatever your sexuality (or lack of sexuality) is, you are not alone. :)
It does merit to point out that bisexuals are a far more closeted population, so this is entirely consistent with people “never having met” a bisexual.
When people tell me “I’ve never met a bisexual” I’m like, "yes, yes you have. Just because they didn’t tell you doesn’t mean they aren’t there.”
Bisexuals are everywhere-but I think a lot of bisexuals don’t know we are everywhere. That’s who I was mostly thinking about posting this graphic-while I love to rub it in the faces of biphobes that, “haha, we do exist!” I mostly post things like this for bisexuals.
When I was 13 years old, I happened across a book that explained what bisexuality was and that 1 in 10 people had experienced same-gender attraction (I actually think it’s higher than that, but). That was how I found out that I was bi. I actually thought I was the only not-gay, not-straight person in the world. That book, that one small section on bisexuality, is why I am where I am today. (It was a similar experience with my gender identity and the book Luna by Julie Anne Peters.)
While it is so so painful to have to reassert ourselves and our identities over and over to monosexists who don’t believe we exist, what I really hope is that some bisexual person, who may not even know they are bisexual yet, hears from us that they are real, their identity is valid, and that they are not alone. :)
note: emphasis added
A man in the grocery store line today approached me and said, “Sir, when I first saw you I was extremely attracted to you, but then I noticed that you are a boy. How… I mean, why do you dress so provocatively?”
I responded, “Well, in today’s world the majority of the straight male race view women as objects, or something that belongs to them. I dress provocatively because it attracts the attention of men in a sexual and OBJECTIVE way. However, when realized that I am actually male, they often become confused, disgusted, upset or all of the above. By inflicting this minor emotional damaged upon the ego of a man raised by twisted societal gender norms, maybe, just maybe the individual will think twice before viewing another woman with an objective attitude and sense of belonging. No woman, belongs to ANYONE. Male or female, the equality of human beings needs to be a priority. It is something worth dressing up for.”
I AM NOT KIDDING. The woman behind me, the female cashier, the old lady bagging groceries and the woman in front of me who was talking on the phone STOPPED, …. and proceeded to gasp and clap. The man shook my hand, told me to have a blessed day and then said, “excuse me ladies, I need to visit my daughter.”
…. I was shaking by the time I walked out of the store.
- Elliott Alexzander